It is well known that family spirit provides society a strong foundation. Wherever we get together for work, worship, school or business, the application of family oriented values provides an environment conducive to stability and success. Among these values are acceptance, care, kindness, empathy, security, bonding and confidence. Any depletion of these values may reflect poor leadership and fuel dysfunctions.
Among the tips experts usually share on leadership, lasting connections, and a fulfilled life, what comes out on top is kindness, empathy and a desire to extend a helping hand. Actually, compassion may be the best kept secret to a harmonious family life, a healthy work environment, and a peaceful society. It is a gift we can give every day by listening attentively while refraining from passing judgment or telling your own story.
I came to understand that ideals work as the North Star giving direction and meaning to our lives, as they motivate us to stretch our minds and bodies towards particular targets. Ideals provide us a precious tool to evaluate ourselves, see how far we are from the target line, and improve on important areas of our lives. Without such a tool, we develop no appetite for effort and end up in a state of perpetual stagnation.
Usually, punishment comes as a feedback for an undesirable behavior or result. Given the fear, pain, and negativity attached to it, just the idea of a stick is enough to effect the desired result. However, a carrot or the anticipation of a reward often works miracles while nurturing a conducive environment for peace and harmony.
Obama’s victory got me to reflect about many things people think are impossible. His audacity of hope and “Yes we can” mantra blazed a trail to the White House. From Shern’s skepticism to Roody’s celebration lay a bridge made of unwavering confidence and hope, dedication to learning and contributing, and resilience even in the face of apparently insurmountable obstacles. That improbable victory stood as a sky high banner with the writing, “Everything is possible to those who believe”.
Vision or burning desire propels you to acquire relevant skills and motivates persistent actions. In fact, it is a starting point for great achievements. Even when challenges arise or fear steps in, vision summons confidence, creativity and resilience to overcome them. Success is to remain active and resourceful in the process we are engaged in. The steps we take to climb the mountain, the journey, matter as much as reaching the summit, the destination.
“To concede defeat when you are entrusted with a mission amounts to jeopardizing the utility and quality of the rest of your life. Is it worth it?”
Jean Ricot Dormeus, Land of Dormant Dreams – A Walk into the Future, p. 61